Buddhist wisdom and parenting

I'd like to share with you something I read back in 2007 when my children were little that helped a lot  and some things of have learnt from being a teacher and a mother.
Buddha heart parenting involves engaging in Buddhist wisdom. 

Principle: action based on awareness and driven by compassion.

Skills and strategies combined with compassion and wisdom.

Children don't act up to make you angry, they do it because of the way they feel.  Skilful action-  pali kulsala.  Skilful action has a technical and moral element.  Unskilful or inappropriate action comes from suffering.  If we look at this in our children then we can remain calm and choose a response.  Compassion and wisdom lie at the heart of Buddhist philosophy.  Idiot compassion is compassion without wisdom.  (Buddhist teacher).  The experience of minfulness is one of clear alertness.  Mindfulness will bring inner peace and children will feel this from us and internalise it.  Unmet needs are usually behind why children act inappropriately.  Partial reinforcement vs consistency.  Age appropriate expectations.  Praise vs specific feedback. Building inner confidence not external all effect outcomes in parenting.  

Empathetic listening,

Using self expression.

Problem solving

Self discipline

Resilience.

Cause and effect.

Compassion for self.  These are all topics I will cover in the next few months and examples of how I have seen them in action.