To hold a grudge or not to hold a grudge?

My 10 yr.old daughter told my 70 yr. old mother that she would be better off not holding grudges.  Now this didn't go down too well and it got me thinking.  Why do we tell people not to hold a grudge?

Why should we not hold a grudge?

 After a little research these were the answers found:

 Because God forgives us and shows mercy?

 

Because it will eat away at our own happiness as we re-live it and create hate in our heart?

 

Should we then let people hurt us and forgive?

 

You want someone else’s level of sorrow to reflect your own?

 

Because if you don’t let go you will define your life by how you have been hurt,  Self- pity?

 

Because you deserve peace in your own heart, not because you are omitting they are right?

 

There seems to be a dramatic mismatch in our expectations of how another person should act and what is true reality, particularly when a grudge is held over a long time, like generations.

 

But a healthy bit of distance between you and someone who has hurt you can actually be healthy for you.

 

So know the difference and life should be better for you, I hope.

 

Game- rope tied in a circle with knots in it and each person-child or adult,  has to come up and un-tie the knot as they let go of a long held grudge.