Get out of your negative headspace

Understand your thought processes to have a better mindset.
If you are not content within yourself nothing will ever be right in your life.
We are hard wired since our creation to be on alert for bad things to happen and we hold onto them so we can avoid them again in the future.  That's what has helped our survival since our beginning as humans, but we need to understand that this is an in built ability that we don't really need to hold onto these days.  We don't have to be on as high alert as we were in the cave man days and this crosses over to our reaction to things in life also.  We can overreact to what our mind perceives as a threat to us and react with our fight or flight response.  This is from a tiny gland at the base of our skull called the amygdala.  This is what kept us safe millions of years ago from predators.  We don't need to react this way as much now and it is time to settle our brains.  Being on high alert all the time sets us of on a bad negative path, where we perceive threats when there really isn't any and we give up to easily or fight or worse yet, come in straight away with our guard up and not open to anyone's point of view.  Another negative outcome of working from the negative reactions that we are stuck in is that we can't see anything as positive anymore. We get around on auto-pilot of always reacting the same way and never finding peace whether we fight or take off from the perceived threat without trying to work around it.  We tell ourselves we are hard done by and play the victim and we tell everyone who will listen all the stored up negative stuff that has happened to us, not storing up any small positives.  We need to remember why we were made with these responses and that they once helped us survive in a harsh world and we could draw upon all the negative stuff we had remembered to keep us safe in the future. But we are not cave men and women anymore and we now can afford to store up some positives.  So work on storing up some positives by maybe having done gratitude for what you do have and enjoy in your life.  Give your friends and family a break from hearing about your hard day after day after day.  Because it doesn't matter where you run to with your 'flight' response or weather you stay and fight you will ultimately never be happy until you find happiness within yourself and only yourself.